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Can’t Fix Stupid!

You just can’t fix stupid.  It’s one of my favorite sayings.

It applies to so many!  For some, it seems they feed off of stupidity. Live in a perpetual state of stupid. In their choices.  In their language.  In their attitudes.

It’s harsh, I know.  But in reality, I think most are guilty from time to time of becoming exasperated with those around us.  It’s easy to sit back and see others’ mistakes (while conveniently overlooking our own).  The foolishness in their life choices or even their everyday decisions.  It’s easy to judge them and their crazy behavior.

But it only takes a moment of retrospection to realize that I can be just as ridiculous as any other.  I have walked down that road of selfish, irrational, ridiculous, stupidity in my life choices more times than I care to recall. I even revisit it every now and then.  Stupidity seems to be an old friend of mine that I just can’t let go of.  I’m sure that phrase I throw around so readily has been thrown in my direction a time or ten.  We all have our moments.

Sometimes our irrational behavior is a result of silliness.  Folly. It’s usually short-lived.  A moment of insanity.

Other times it’s a result of being uneducated.  You simply don’t know any better.  When you learn better, you do better.

Even still, sometimes erratic behavior comes as a result of being hurt.  Deeply.  We throw caution and wisdom to the wind because we just want to feel better.  We tire of the burdens we carry, the problems life throws at us, and throw our hands in the air.  Just do what feels good.  Sure, it may be a mistake.  But in the moment, we get a little relief.  And that makes it easy to ignore the consequences that will follow later.

It’s easy to become impatient with others when they live in a state of perpetual stupidity.  You just want them to grow up.  To get a grip.  Enough already.  They made their bed, now they can lay in it!

But we are called to a higher standard.  We are called to love those, even in their moments of stupidity. Even when bad choices consume their lives.  Even when they fall into a cycle of negative behavior.

The Bible commands us to be tenderhearted.  Patient.  Kind.  Gentle.  Have mercy on others.  Yes, even when enough is enough.  Even when they need to get a grip.  Even when they need to grow up.  We must love others through their times of struggle.  At times we may have to help them pick up the pieces of their broken lives.  The mess they’ve made.  It’s at those times it’s important to handle them with tenderhearted kindness.  Mercy.  Humility.  Gentleness.  And definitely patience.

After all, that’s exactly what the Father does for us. I’m sure He daily shakes His head in disbelief at my choices.  My thoughts.  And my actions.  Yet, He never washes His hands of me.  He picks me up, dusts me off, helps to put the pieces back together.  And even renews my heart and soul. His mercies are new every morning!

Let’s remember to treat others the way He treats us…. with compassion.  No, you can’t fix stupid. But you can love someone through it.  Pray them through it.  And show them God’s love through our care and love for them.

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.   –Colossians 3:12


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Posted by on January 16, 2012 in Daily Devotions


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Don’t be a Hater!

Hate is thrown around today like a hot potato.  We have a fan club of haters.  Haters hate.

Someone talks about you behind their back.  You hate them.  Someone wrongs you.  You hate them.  Your teacher is grumpy.  You hate him.  Your mom grounds you.  You hate her.  Your girlfriend breaks up with you.  You hate her.  Your husband won’t do anything around the house.  You hate him.  The President does things that don’t make sense.  You hate him.  The bank won’t give you a loan.  You hate big business.  People of a different race move in next door.  You hate them.  Some people are too goody-two shoes.  You hate them.  Hypocrites.  You hate them.

We often joke about our haters.  They make us famous.  Let’s give em something to hate.

The Bible says HATE is a very serious thing.  It’s not a joking matter.  In fact, the Bible says that anyone who says they love God but hates someone is a liar.  It goes as far to say if you hate someone, you cannot love God.  We are commanded to LOVE our brothers and sisters in Christ.  Not encouraged to do so.  Not asked to do so.  It’s not optional.  We are commanded to LOVE one another.

I know exactly what you are thinking.  People can hurt you.  Some can take your heart and stomp on it, spit on it, and walk away.  Often times, people give you little to love.  You are likely at some time in your life, to run across someone who seems to be on a mission to destroy you.  How do you NOT hate someone who has so horribly wronged you or someone you love?

I have been there.  And all I know is that you have to hand your feelings, your hatred to God.  Go to Him, spill your heart.  Seek His help.  Forgiveness is important for YOU.  Not for that person.  One of the greatest acts of love is forgiveness.  That does not mean this person has to be a part of your life.  It doesn’t mean you have to be friends or ever will be.  But don’t allow hatred for this person to build up and eat at you.  Generally speaking, all that hatred only destroys YOU.  You need justice?  I understand.  I need some myself.  But it’s not my place.  It’s God’s.  And He knows not only that I need justice for those who have wronged me, but also the justice that should be handed to me for my sins.

We are called to love.  Everyone.  Even those who annoy us.  Even those who wrong us.  Even those who destroy our hearts.

Today, think about hate.  What in your life do you need to stop hating and hand over to God?  Who do you need to love enough to forgive?

My job.  My calling is to follow Him.  I simply cannot do that while hating others.  I cannot love God while hating others.  It’s a choice I must make in order to be obedient to Him.  And I choose God.

We love because he first loved us. Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.  And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.  –1 John 4:19-21


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Posted by on December 1, 2011 in Daily Devotions


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Sister Friends with 32 Kids…….and Counting!

Ok, so I have a confession to make.  Actually, I have several confessions to make, but I’m gonna focus on this one.

I wasted vast amounts of time this past weekend vegging out in front of the TV.

I watched every episode of Sister Wives Netflix has available.  But that wasn’t enough.  I then moved to the computer to see if more episodes were online.  I watched clip after clip.  Of course, when I was out of more to watch, I began surfing through the TLC website….where I discovered 19 Kids and Counting.  So, I jumped back to the TV.  Back to Netflix.  And guess what?  They have tons of episodes of the Duggars!

I learned a LOT from watching these shows.  Really.  I did. In fact, I learned so much, I now have new life goals.  True story.  Stop it!  Don’t judge!  I have a plan.  It’s so brilliant, you will wish you had thought of it yourself. But before I share my brilliance, I need to explain.


First of all, Sister Wives.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am in NO WAY condoning, encouraging, or promoting polygamy.  Polygamy is wrong.  Period.  End of story.  So just get off your soap box for a moment and listen.  These families team up.  This family even lives in one G.I.G.A.N.T.I.C. house.  The wives help each other out with childcare, cooking duties, financial responsibilities.  It’s like one HUGE family but with several moms to hold down the fort.  They form friendships and bond with each other and their children.  The only problem I can see is this guy.  This husband.  He flaunts all over this giant house having himself a hi-ho time.  Sure, he works and brings in some money.  But most of the wives work, too.

After watching the entire first season, I have come to a spectacular conclusion.  I could so have some sister wives ……….WITHOUT the hubby!  I mean, think about it.  Instant built in babysitter.  You don’t like to cook?  No problem.  Trade duties for things you DO enjoy.  All while living in harmony with your best friends.  Put the kids to bed, and instant girls night!  I bet millions would watch, too.  Sister Friends…coming to a channel near you.

Next, the Duggars.  Wow.  19 kids and yet another on the way.  You can’t help but be curious.  When you have your own classroom full of your very own rugrats, how do you survive??  I am completely worn out just from my five.  My first thought before watching this family was, well…… know.  Let’s just say it wasn’t happy thoughts.  But then, I sat down to watch.

And BAM!  There it was!  My dream home!


A laundry room with 4 washers and dryers.  A room just to store everyone’s clothes in organized and labeled bins.  HUGE bedrooms that hold multiple beds.  Eight, yes, eight bathrooms!  The living room is HUGE.  The kitchen is as well, but then on top of that, they have a commercial kitchen in the back complete with cafeteria style buffet line.  Their pantry looks like a small grocery store.  The dining room contains soda fountains.  They even have a game room and a slide next to the stairs in the game room.  Wow.  I completely thought they must be insane to have so many children.  But then, I see this house.  You can’t tell me a family this big could afford a house like that PRE-TV show.  And they are constantly going places.   Making appearances.  Taking trips.


I’m thinking…..I can do this!  All of this!!  Sister Friends combined with the Duggars….

Just a few problems arise.  Like how to keep pro-creating without a man in the picture.  And that leads me to wonder what will I do with my hubby.  I really like having him around.  But then that messes up my whole sister friends idea.  And then there’s the fact that I had a tubal years ago. Oh, and I need some other sister friends to sign up.  And they must be willing to add to the production line as well.  More babies means more square footage.

These problems are simply bumps in the road.  That’s all.  Nothing I can’t overcome.  I would go on and explain, but then you would know too much.  I can’t have anything or anyone interfering with, or heaven forbid, trying to steal my my awesome plan to get my dream house AND full-time help!

I know you must have a million questions, but I must go now.  I have work to do.  I have vacations (I mean, um, appearances) to plan and dream home house plans to create.  It’s a tough job, but somebody’s gotta do it.



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Posted by on November 14, 2011 in It's my life.....


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TGIF………Time to get your CHEER on!

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.  –Proverbs 17:22

A crushed spirit dries up the bones.

Wow.  Get a mental image of dried up bones.  Humor me.  Surely, they would ache and hurt each time you use them.  I would imagine them to be brittle.  Easily broken.  And although my first reaction to this verse is, “Dramatic much?”, it makes sense.  When your spirit is crushed by the circumstances and heartbreak of life, you hurt, both physically and emotionally.  You do feel as though you will break at any moment.   The emotional state of your soul can literally make you sick. During those times, it’s an utter necessity to keep your eye on God.  Lean on Him.  And know that He is in control and will bring you through.

It’s also important to guard your heart from the poison of other’s bad attitudes.   We all have someone in our life who is negative about everything.  They could be handed a million dollars and still complain because they had to figure out what to do with the money.  No matter what is going on around them, they are grumpy, grouchy, negative, and pessimistic.  These folks have an uncanny ability to rain on anyone’s parade before it even begins.  They are joy-killers.  Choosing to spend time with these folks takes a toll on a cheerful heart.  In fact, it can crush your spirit.  And nobody wants dried up bones!  Just say NO to the Negative Nelly mindset.

After all, Today is FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just that simple sentence puts a smile on my face from ear to ear.

I can see the light at the end of the tunnel…and it’s close enough to know it’s NOT a train coming for me.

The end of the week is within my grasp, right there at my fingertips.

I have lived through another week.  I haven’t only survived, but I have conquered!!

Even if your week has been full of disappointment or heartache, you now have the weekend to refresh, renew your spirit, and spend some time worshiping God.  Choose to have a cheerful heart today.  And yes, it is a choice.  It helps you walk a little lighter.  Your steps a little quicker.  Your outlook a little brighter.  It’s nearly impossible to see a half-empty cup when you are in a cheerful mood.  Even in the midst of problems and trials, an attitude of looking forward to brighter days ahead can change the impact of those trials in your life at the moment.  And often, life is so hard, we need to live moment by moment to survive.

So, today, don’t let any Negative Nelly rain on your Friday parade!!  Count your blessings.  Be thankful for what you HAVE been giving instead of focusing on what all is falling apart.   With God at your side, you can be assured, brighter days are ahead!!

Get your cheer on!!

Sing and dance……….Have a Fabulous Friday!!

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Posted by on November 4, 2011 in Daily Devotions


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